Have you looked in the mirror lately and didn’t recognize your own reflection? Do you no longer feel like yourself? Have you lost the person you were before the relationship and can’t seem to find your way back to your old self again? Moving on after a break up is one of the hardest things anyone can do. Especially if you put up a good fight to try to salvage the relationship.
Sometimes in relationships, we consume ourselves so much with trying to help or change the other person, that we end up forgetting who we are. Next thing you know, the relationship is over and you feel lost. You have looked yourself in the mirror and despise what you see. You may even feel like you are not good enough, attractive enough, or even smart enough. You are depressed and can’t seem to be happy and have no idea how to begin the journey to finding yourself. Here are 6 steps that helped me find myself again after a bad breakup.
1.) Take a Hot Bath and Dress to Impress
First thing is to get out of those sweat pants and big T-shirt that you have been wearing for the past few days. Take a hot bubbly bath with some soothing music and just relax. Next, put on a favorite outfit that has always made you feel beautiful. When people dress up, they tend to automatically feel a lot better about themselves. When someone sees that they are looking better than before, it will begin to lift up their spirits.
2.) Get Out of the house
Think of favorite hobbies. Think of activities that you enjoy doing. Maybe treat yourself to a spa day and get your nails and hair done. Treat yourself to one of your favorite restaurants. Do things that were enjoyable before the relationship. Whatever it is, just make sure that it is out of the house and allows for you to get some fresh air. Personally for me, I would walk around downtown in my city and visit all of my favorite boutiques. Other things I did were: attend musical events, sporting events, and local concerts.